I really don't find the four gates to be that useful or applicable in reality
The intent behind them is what counts imho (strive to make the world a better place than it was before, and minimise harm as you do so)
To be fair, I'm not a fan of the "don't speak unless your words improve the silence" notion either
Silence is death, life is noise, and in my case the silence is fraught with tinnitus and stray thoughts. I think it's important to respect other people's tranquility, so I try not to bother people, but I feel that small talk is the most human thing we have
@gaeel @dualhammers Something I've noticed about silence recently is that there are friends who disorient me, who I cannot build or plan with, who never resolve long-standing problems, and there is another kind of friend, with whom I can have protracted conversations spanning weeks, where I remember everything that we ever said to each other.
You can guess which is which.
Some friendships are little more than familiarity, a partially open dialogue, a little bit of understanding. They needn't all be magic.
No, it is the quiet ones. The ones who take it slowly enough for the pieces to fit into place, for the mechanism to properly turn, for the buffers not to overflow. The ones who meditate on every note.
We grow plants, shining light where none was