The four gates of speech are difficult to practice in the open because I do not believe anything I have to say is necessary

I really don't find the four gates to be that useful or applicable in reality
The intent behind them is what counts imho (strive to make the world a better place than it was before, and minimise harm as you do so)

To be fair, I'm not a fan of the "don't speak unless your words improve the silence" notion either
Silence is death, life is noise, and in my case the silence is fraught with tinnitus and stray thoughts. I think it's important to respect other people's tranquility, so I try not to bother people, but I feel that small talk is the most human thing we have

@gaeel How do you avoid bothering people? For me this generally means anything I consider superfluous or just an opinion I rarely say even if people could choose to mute me

@dualhammers I'm not sure
I just kind of get a feel for whether or not people are in the mood for a chat
There's no hard and fast rule, just pay attention to body language and how enthusiastic people are about chatting, really...


@dualhammers Oh, in that case it's hard to figure out, I guess
I try not to tag someone more than twice without a reaction on their part to confirm they're still interested, but otherwise the internet allows people to engage and disengage at will, so I don't worry about it too much

I see

I worry a lot, hah. Because I would be very talkative otherwise and I think people wouldn't like what I have to say

@dualhammers If it's just on your feed, I say talk away, it's an active choice to subscribe to someone's feed, and it's a choice that can be revoked at any time

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